Dear
Readers,I got pregnant for a guy last year December. He started avoiding me when I told him my condition so I decided to break up with him and keep my baby. A month later in January, I hooked up with another guy whom I loved with all my heart.
Surprisingly,
he proposed marriage to me, brought his people to my people
and after all that, we moved in together. I've been trying to gain courage to
tell him the truth but never got it. When the pregnancy started showing, he
assumed it was his baby. I still feared telling him the truth as it would break his heart. I did not want to lose him.
I delivered a baby boy in August and he gave him his father's name. He also organized his baptism and the baby was baptized. He never even once asked about the dates. Some days ago, however, he got word that the other guy was telling people that the baby is his and that he was waiting for him to grow up so he could claim him.
I delivered a baby boy in August and he gave him his father's name. He also organized his baptism and the baby was baptized. He never even once asked about the dates. Some days ago, however, he got word that the other guy was telling people that the baby is his and that he was waiting for him to grow up so he could claim him.
This
broke my husband's heart. He asked me and that's when I told him that I kept
the pregnancy. I know he loves me and the baby because he has always shown it
but the pressure is getting to him and he is considering sending me back home
and taking care of me from there.
I am
confused because my mum is not stable enough to house both me and the baby. I
can't stand the other guy. And I don't want to lose my husband. What should I
do?
9 Comments
you made the mess by being impregnanted by the guy you do not love. it is quiet hard for someone to identify your true personalities regarding men.
ReplyDeleteHow did the father know that you kept the baby ! perhaps, your closest friend take the message to biological father of your son.
you should have not lied to your husband, you see lie has short legs.
try your best to persuade your husband to love you again but know that even if he admitt to take you in again, he will never trust you.
Tell your husband that you lied because you did not want to see him hurt and its all your false.
Tell the other guy to mna up and face the consequences of his actions: rejecting you and now wants to be part of the baby that he soley takes no participation in shaping it. He should let you be.. About your husband,thats a hard one,but you gotta hav to prove to him that your intentions were ona clear path and hurting an innocent life isa crime in itself,let him face harsh reality,and he should learn to love the child as his own.. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteyou should pay for your promiscuity you should have closed your legs until marriage
ReplyDeleteso what is the condition that made you break up with the first guy? HIV?
ReplyDeleteYou should have told your current husband the truth. The whole marriage now seems to be based on a lie. You even claim that your Mother is not stable enough to support the two of you, so you might be married to him because of his cash.Far be it, i think your intentions of saving the baby were genuine and you should explain that to your husband.His forgiveness will depend on the level of repentance you offer him.Regardless of what happens, what you should be thinking about is what is best for your child.
ReplyDeleteLets face it!!!! There goes your marriage just hitting rock bottom because of your clumsiness. Your husband will at some point walk out on you because if he is a real man (like an article on this post says) he will definitely not stand being cheated on now that the woman he is living with cannot stand being cheated on in the first place. It will hence become so hard for you to accept the reality that he's gone and you'll call him a loser. You will be so overcome with emotion since you can't accept that you are self centered and therefore won't see why your husband hasn't been man enough to stay.....You will brand him a boy (like the same article says) and the cycle of women not facing their faults and pointing accusing fingers on the other gender will go on!!!!
ReplyDeleteits a had situation you are in but you can come out of it your self. i would advice you to stop thinking about your husband and the father of the child since both have a negative view towards you. think about yourself,the baby and your own future.start from whichever point to pick yourself up and move.be patient and wait for the man that will be ready to accept you the way you are coz that is life and in life mistakes do happen and we need to be ready to accept and move own.
ReplyDeleteYou should know everything you do has consequenses. U need to be ready to bear the fruits of your deceit. what if he is the one who sired a child out there? you would be swearing how you are going to kill him from betrayal. Be woman enough to take care of your child and learn a lesson not to cheat again.
ReplyDeleteyou made a very big mistake when you lied to your husband that you had done away with the pregnacy.Try to convince your husband to forgive you.Incase he doesnt want to give in easily, just let him go because that will be a very clear indication of trouble in your marrige, he might forgive you yes but he will definately not forget.
ReplyDeleterecollect yourself and forcus on your life and that of your baby.If your husband loves you, dispite of what happened he will difinately come for you time is a master.dont make a mistake to force love you might like the repacation of it.